Resources – Dealing With Children of Divorce

 

 

1.  Public Health Agency of Canada

Website: http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/publicat/mh-sm/divorce/2-eng.php

 

Some of the topics discussed on this website are as follows:

(a)    how children, pre-teens, and teenagers look at divorce

(b)   practical suggestions about how to talk to children about separation and divorce

(c)    tips for communicating effectively with children, pre-teens, and teenagers

 

 

2.  Families Change

Website: http://www.familieschange.ca/

 

This is a really interesting site.  It is broken down into the following categories:

(a)    Children

(b)   Teens

(c)    Professionals

(d)   Parents

 

When you click on children or teens, there are many options to explore.  Both sites are very interactive and use ‘read out loud’ experiences from other children and teens who have dealt with divorce. For instance, the children’s site allows it’s users to explore some of the changes that occur during divorce, feelings about divorce, tools used to deal with divorce, and the rights of the child according to the law.

 

 

3.      Kids Turn: A non-profit organization to help families through parental separation

Website: http://kidsturn.org/pages/page.php?pageid=52

 

If you are a kid whose parents are separating, there is lots of information if you click on the ‘Kids’ link.   This site offers articles written about the different children’s real experiences with divorce, artwork submitted by children of divorce, as well as activities that children who are experiencing divorce can benefit from.

 

 

4.  Earthquake in Zipland

Website: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Earthquake_in_Zipland

 

“Earthquake in Zipland” is an interactive computer game where the main character, a young moose, has his idyllic world rocked by an earthquake and he and his parents, the King and Queen of Zipland, end up being separated from each other.  Through Moose, the child is able to indirectly experience similar situations and feelings he/she would be faced with when going through a divorce.

 “Anger, guilt, loyalty conflicts, and the fantasy to reunite the divorced parents and other emotional effects of divorce on children” are some of the feelings encountered through this game. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Earthquake_in_Zipland)

 

Personal review of the demo.

 

1)        The demo itself is frustrating because most of the links are blocked which does not give you a good picture of the program.  The information on what you are supposed to do is missing from the demo and leaves the user confused as to how to progress.

2)        The graphics are aimed at a younger audience – grades 1, 2, and 3.   However, there is a lot of reading at times which could be difficult for early readers.

 


On the plus side, the game allows for the kids to write in a journal and it gives them emotions such as, I feel angry…, I hate…, I like…These starters could become very useful to help the child to start expressing his/her emotions.

 

To conclude, one should would try to get his/her hands on a complete version before purchasing “Earthquake in Zipland”.  We could be totally off with this critical brief review, however, future interested users should keep in mind that most of the positive information gathered regarding this program was found on sponsored websites.

 

 

5.  Divorce and Children

 

Website: http://video.msn.com/video.aspx?mkt=en-us&vid=1b99beed-ab45-4695-89f5-1e7fb006c85f

 

The following resource is an eleven minute video clip from MSN video and is titled ‘Divorce and Children’.  The clip is taken from NBC’s today show and interviews and few different children who are currently experiencing divorce and discusses some of their personal feelings associated with it.  As well, parents are also interviewed to discuss their reasons and feelings around divorce.  Psychologist Gary Neuman is brought onto the show to work through the experiences of one family in particular.

 

6.  Kids’ Turn Central

 

Website: http://www.kidsturncentral.com/topics/issues/divorce.htm

 

This website offers its users many links to explore and is recommended for children, parents, and counselors who are working through divorce.  The site is divided into the following sections:

(a)    Divorce Sites for Kids (four websites)

(b)   Dealing with Emotions (two websites)

(c)    Programs (a group of five different sites that contain a list of updated programs and workshops that parents and children can sign up for)

(d)   Just the Facts (three websites that provide children with factual information about the rights of children of divorce)

(e)    Personal Stories (two websites that contain personal stories written by children of divorce)

(f)    Books / Products  (thirteen websites that lead to books and other resources available for order)

(g)   Help For Your Family (three websites that family members can go to for advice on divorce)

 

 

7.        Christner, Ray W.,  Stewart, Jessica L., & Freeman, Arthur (2007),

Handbook of Cognitive-behavior Group Therapy with Children and

Adolescents: Specific Settings and Presenting Problems, CRC Press.

 

The title of this book pretty much says it all.  However, if you want to focus on children dealing with divorce, chapter 13 is a good reference.  This chapter highlights two interventions such Child-Focused Programs and Parent-Focused Intervention Programs.  By following the url below you will be able to get a good idea of these two programs which are accessible through the web preview. ?This Handbook provides not only a framework for delivering effective group therapy, but also highlights specific problem areas, and it is an invaluable reference for professionals providing therapeutic intervention to children and adolescents.? (Google book search: http://books.google.com/books?id=Hep0XtYnMiQC)

 

 

 

8.      Kids in the Middle

          Website  http://www.kidsinthemiddle.org/responsibilities.htm

 

I liked this link as it allows a child to pick a variety of feelings or situations they may be in and offers a variety of solutions for them.  It assists a child to understand what is “normal” as far as their responsibilities are concerned and what is not.  As we know a child can really be pulled between parents during divorce. This is a simple tool that could lead to further discussion.

 

 

9.      Children and Divorce Site

          Website: http://www.childrenanddivorce.com/

 

This site has a wealth of resources which I find particularly useful.    I particularly liked the variety of PDF file handouts that can be given to parents.  This would be useful a resource at the end of a counselling session and could lead to discussion during a follow up session.

 

 

10.  Talking With Your Children About Separation and Divorce

 

         Website: http://www.cbc.ca/documentaries/doczone/2009/howtodivorce/talking.pdf

 

This brief handout is a great guideline for parents who want to speak to their children about the new change that will affect their lives.  It provides a nice framework for a parent.

11.  Kid’s Book List

          Website: http://www.kidsinthemiddle.org/kidsbooks.htm

I loved this site as it lists over 25 books for those going through divorce.  The books are divided by age group and has a category for step-children and adults.